Busting the Good Girl Myth

I danced with my ankles bound and my eyes blindfolded.

In a private session alongside three sisters, I was guided by our erotic movement facilitator, Tara Tatangelo, to dig deep beyond my comfort zone.

When the second song came on, my heart beat began pounding harder.

“Take up space,” I heard Tara guiding me.

I felt frustrated with myself because this doesn’t come naturally to me.

But then I remembered all of the times I shrank myself (physically & metaphorically) to feel safe.

I could feel big tears rising, bubbling to the surface behind my blindfold.

I held my heart close and tenderly as I danced with her and she danced through me.

“Take up big space, darling. Fill the room with your essence. Tell your story,” I whispered to my heart.

I uncovered a hidden desire within me that night to command attention through the art of dominance.

This experience reminded me of the “Good Girl” conditioning we’ve all been covertly fed from very young ages...

How we hold ourselves back from stepping into our fullness out of fear of rejection or ruffling feathers or being "too much."

I danced with grief, the rope & blindfold the filters I’ve held onto, restricting my presence and my bigness.

I danced with anger, for all of the women in my lineage who were taught to be good girls, who never allowed their rage to be sacred & their sexuality to be holy.

I danced with desire, lusting for my liberated expression to be unleashed.

No more hiding in the shadows and lurking in the perimeter of my presence. My inner "Bad Girl" is welcomed home.

I invite you to unleash your naughtiest "Bad Girl" with this journaling prompt.  The key is to challenge yourself to be completely unfiltered.  Don’t worry – your mom won’t read this. ;)

“If I were a Bad Girl, I would…”